I want to share something I wrote today in one of my Facebook groups about Developmental Trauma vs Shock Trauma.
This was in response to the following comment that showed up in a conversation in the group: “If you experienced developmental trauma, it is not possible to heal, your trauma is written in stone, but if you experienced a shock trauma, you are likely to make a full recovery.”
I don’t agree with this assertion, but there are elements of truth woven into it. Let’s slow down and unpack this topic.
The absence of developmental trauma: a good enough infancy and childhood:
If a child has a good enough experience in the womb and as an infant and young person, if the unpleasant experiences that they have are manageable and they are able to have safety, love, recognition and support in the face of pain or upset, then that person will tend to have a nervous system and an inner emotional life that is fairly well balanced.
It’s Thursday noon in Baltimore. It was snowing overnight and sleeting about an hour ago. It’s quiet now, but we are expecting another 2-4 inches of snow overnight. Not much compared to New England and the Midwest, and overall much easier than Texas.
I hope that wherever you are, you are warm, safe, and fed.
I hope that you are doing well, reaching deep into the soil of the earth for nutrients through the challenge of winter, feeling the call of spring that will be coming.
I am excited about what is going to pop out of the soil this spring and then sprout leaves, and blossom, and bear fruit.
I myself have been percolating deep in the darkness, poking around in basements and caves in my unconscious, looking for insight and hidden treasure.
I’ve found a few precious things down there. If you click on this link you will find a 17 question “journey inventory” that brought some rich insights and perspective for me when I filled it out for myself a few weeks ago.
Together with the nation, I am breathing a sigh of relief to signs of normalcy and stabilization in government. I won’t say more.
On a more personal note, I am breathing excitement, as I have enrolled in an intensive support program that will help me in lifting my transformational somatic trauma healing business to a new level.
That is good for you because I continue to have a passion for producing free and low-cost resources to help guide people through healing developmental trauma who do not have the financial resources to pay for a dedicated facilitator. This support will help me to get those resources collected and organized and available to you and to the people in your life.
More to come on that front as I inch or leap forward, week by week.
In the meantime, here is one of the resources that I created within the past week. This is an audio process for working with fear, for finding embodiment in the face of fear, and for connecting to the earth for grounding and support.
I hope that you are well, in body, mind, and spirit.
Here is my story: On Wednesday I sat down to record a new version of a healing practice that I wanted to share with you. I was all set, I had updated the script and reviewed it carefully. I would record the new version, listen to it to make sure it worked, and then write up my weekly email and send you the link. That didn’t happen. The state of our nervous system in any moment has a huge impact on anything we do. For me to record an effective healing meditation, my nervous system needs to be in a state of calm, aliveness, generosity, and peace. I read the headlines about what was happening in Washington DC, and what happened in my nervous system was definitely not peace. At first I thought I could settle enough to do the recording, and finally I realized that was not realistic.
Notice your body, trust your body, don’t try to force it.