I hope that you are having a safe and awesome summer, filled with pleasant blessings and surprises.
There is a lot that I want to be able to teach you about fear, hope, vitality, overwhelm and the human nervous system.
Some of what I want to teach you, I know really well inside myself. But what I don’t necessarily know are: – how to put words around what I know that will enable you to also know it – how many different things can get in the way of you even understanding what I am talking about
And some of what I want to teach you, I only have glimmers of. There are things I am just beginning to learn inside myself, and I can tell there’s much more. To use a martial arts analogy, I know that I know a lot of stuff, but I don’t know whether I am a first degree black belt or a yellow belt! I know that I know a lot and I know that there is a lot more to know that I can’t even envision yet.
Plan, Start, Keep Going! Clarify and set your most important intention(s). (For example, to love and forgive myself) Make a specific and simple plan to support your intention. (Five to ten times per day for a week, I will put my hand on my heart, breathe, soften, drop my shoulders and say, “I love me and I forgive myself”) Make a backup plan for when something goes wrong. (I will put reminders in my calendar and put up sticky notes.) Start following your plan.
When you inevitably find yourself off the track:
Analyze how you got here
Criticize or judge yourself
Assume or declare that you have failed
Remember your intention and why it was important to you
Return to the plan and/or
Go to the back up plan
The temptation to analyze or judge is an insidious distraction. You can analyze after the time period has ended.
Relax, Breathe, Everything is OK (even though some things really aren’t)
Feeling lost, confused, depressed or discouraged is not a sign of failure or back-sliding, regardless of how long it has been there or how quickly it popped up. Feel your body and your breath. Know that the Earth – and Love – are holding you. Allow yourself to feel comfort from your own touch. Gently tell yourself that both your pain and your joy are welcome. Do your essential tasks and do your practices, while listening to your body with curiosity.