Who is Rosalie Corame and is she a good fit for your individual healing work or for your relationship work?

My background in Somatic Healing and Developmental Trauma Healing

I have been studying human psychology, personal transformation, and dynamic healing through various modalities for 35+ years and I am continuing in my studies ongoing. I am an Inner Relationship Focusing-trained SEP (Somatic Experiencing Practitioner) and a NARM-Informed practitioner (NeuroEffective Relational Model® ). I am hoping to complete my Relational Life Therapy Coaching Certification within a few months. Other systems I have studied include Somatic Skills training with Kathy Kain, ISP (Integral Somatic Psychology™), ShadowWork®, Voice Dialogue and healing breathwork. I have a coaching certificate from Integrative Transformational Coaching with Kate Siner, PhD.

I have gained a great deal of cognitive understanding from these studies, but my biggest learnings have been through experiencing first-hand the powerful nature of this work, by wading through my own fear, inner chaos, freeze, shame, depression and suppressed anger and finding new resource, flexibility and resilience through these methods, at the hands of many skilled facilitators, practitioners, and therapists. I continue to be both a work in progress and a testimony to the power of transformational healing work.

For many years, my pursuit of human transformation was a passionate avocation, while my paid profession was as a software architect. I began my coaching certification study in 2015, and in 2020 I transitioned into trauma coaching as a full-time professional pursuit. In late 2025 I added couple’s work to my coaching practice.

I am a member in good standing of the International Coaching Federation (ICF), and I adhere to the ethical codes of this professional organization. You may review the ICF code of ethics at this link: ICF Code of Ethics | International Coaching Federation

As a coach, I am not trained or certified as a therapist. I will not diagnose any psychological conditions. Coaching is not a substitute for psychotherapy, mental health care, substance abuse treatment, or other professional mental health service.

I am happy to work with people who have psycho-emotional struggles as an additional resource if they are working with a mental health professional or if their symptoms do not rise to a level that requires professional mental health care.

Here are several key distinctions between trauma coaching and psychotherapy. Some of these are redundant to what I’ve said above.

1. As a coach, I will not diagnose any mental health condition. I don’t offer diagnoses.
2. As a coach, I do not treat mental health conditions. If a client needs mental health treatment for a mental health diagnosis, I can work in an adjunct support role but I will not treat that condition.
3. In coaching, the work we do is focused on the present and the future. We will not go poking around your past looking for interesting or uncomfortable things to explore. Sometimes the impacts of past experiences show up in the present. When that happens, we will engage with what is showing up in the present. We might get curious about and make references to past experiences that have caused the present thoughts, emotions, or blocks. When we do that, the focus is on working in the present in relation to the past to clear or change the present symptoms in a way that clears space for the desired future.
4. Coaching is a collaborative process. The coach and the client are peers. As a coach I will never believe that I know better than you either what is happening in you (consciously or unconsciously) nor what you should or should not do. I may offer perspective based on my education and experience, but I am never attached to the perspective that I offer. Your role is to consider what I offer and check within yourself about whether it seems useful or not.
5. In coaching, the goals and direction of our work together come from the client. The purpose of our work is what you say it is. My role is to support you in moving in the directions in which you want to move.
6. In addition to not treating mental health conditions, I don’t treat any conditions. The work I do is not treatment. It is the collaborative exploration of your body’s experience, your nervous system, your thoughts, your beliefs, and your behaviors to determine what is in the way of your goals and to find ways to create useful shifts in your body, nervous system, thoughts, beliefs, and actions.
7. In coaching, you are always in charge. You are fully responsible for your choices, both within our sessions and in your life. At any time and for any or no reason, you can say “No” and can stop whatever is happening in the session. In particular, you are responsible for noticing the impacts of our work and stopping or redirecting the work if it becomes destabilizing to you, either within our sessions or in your life.
8. There is no mystery or magic in this work. I will often explain the purpose of an exercise or intervention and you are always welcome to ask why we are doing any particular thing, and when you ask, I will always answer plainly and honestly.

I will say that some of these tenets or practices can also be found in somatic trauma-informed psychotherapy. But where that’s the case, it is because some enlightened psychotherapy approaches have adopted practices that were already long-held practices in the coaching community.

My personal developmental trauma healing story

I have lived with the effects of developmental trauma throughout my life. Finally, somewhere within the 2010’s, I got to where I can now count on feeling ok enough, where can know I won’t collapse into dread or paralysis, even when those kinds of feelings arise. That doesn’t mean I feel great all the time. I still find myself navigating fear, shame, overwhelm, and confusion. I am still actively working on my own inner world.

Yet the breakthrough was real. It is a joy and relief to have greater ease in my life, to be able to sit, sink in, and savor the view of the clouds and the sky outside. To feel my belly rising with my breath. To gently inquire with myself, “What is the best set of plans for the rest of the day or week?” And to have the space to answer that from my intuition and my calm, not from a barrage of internal pressure and overwhelm – even when the pressure and overwhelm is there.

My parents were both profoundly depressed. My mother was also chronically terrified. She became pregnant with me when my sister was 6 months old. So, when I was an infant, Mom was also caring for a toddler. And working at a menial job to support my Dad who was a graduate school student at the time. My birth was distressing. I was delivered with forceps, pulled out, I am quite sure my neck is still reacting to that. Everyone in the room was feeling stressed out. There was no sense of calm, warm welcoming. And when I was a toddler, Mom became pregnant with twins, my brothers. It wasn’t until I was well into my 30s with my own family that I began to realize how frozen and dissociated I had been throughout my life to date.

When I was in my early 20s, I began searching for help; at that time, I found a new religious movement and an arranged marriage.

In my 30s, I started actively engaging in personal growth workshops and psychotherapy and have continued that path to the present.

I am grateful for the support and facilitation I received over the past thirty-plus years.

And it still took thirty years to feel reasonably ok enough.

Why? For one thing, most of the programs that I attended were not designed specifically for people with developmental trauma. Where the techniques were helpful, their efficacy was reduced when the people offering them found me – or my reactions – confusing or threatening.

I also met many well-credentialed experts who “knew” they could help but who just made things worse. Most experts have not personally experienced the severity of developmental trauma that some of us are trying to find our way out of. And many don’t know what to do when their techniques don’t work. They blame the client for “having too much resistance” or for “not trying hard enough” or “not opening up.”

I am grateful for feeling so alive now! For savoring my breath, for softening into both the joys and challenges of my life. For sure, I’m still a work in progress but the path is gentler.

How I work in somatic healing sessions

Coaching is not therapy, so what is it?

Coaching can be defined as an alliance or partnership between the Coach and the Client in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires and supports the client to maximize personal and/or professional potential. Resilience Coaching as I define it (I am not affiliated with any group of “resilience coaches”) has a focus on the workings of the nervous system and the patterns of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that underlie our relationships with other humans and with our experience of life in general.

I will help you notice and celebrate your successes, including those in the past. I will help you be aware of and feel your feelings, including those that originated in the past, but which may intrude on the present. I will support you with becoming comfortable – or becoming more deeply comfortable – with having feelings and needs, and in knowing and clarifying your goals and aspirations, especially those relating to your subjective experience of your life and relationships. I will follow the wisdom of your body in gently exploring the joyful and painful patterns that you may be hiding or suppressing. I will work with you to be able to feel more fully alive and embodied and to tolerate the inevitable upsets in life with more flexibility and resilience.

I integrate classical coaching skills, such as listening, visioning, clarifying goals and identifying obstacles, together with somatic awareness skills from Somatic Experiencing, parts work from Inner Relationship Focusing and Voice Dialogue, and the processing of emotions and beliefs, informed by RLT, ISP, ShadowWork®, NARM® and other personal growth modalities.