Will you join me for an experiment in trauma healing?
Are you earnestly doing your personal work but just not finding ease and joy?
Do you have fantastic breakthroughs and then find that the changes just seem to disappear?
Are you feeling stuck, unable to shake dread, anxiety, fear, or frustration?
Developmental Trauma is a deep and sneaky adversary. It gets in the way of the things we most need, the things that feed us and help us move forward:
connection with others,
trust in ourselves,
ease in our bodies.
I am a Developmental Trauma Alchemist. Having lived inside of developmental trauma throughout my life while studying and practicing many systems of self inquiry and transformation, I am constructing a system of reclaiming life force and reclaiming a stable sense of self.
Safely Engaging Life Force – S.E.L.F.
After decades of this work, I have an almost magical perspective on navigating these chaotic waters, and I can recognize the deceptions that developmental trauma presents. I know deeply that the things our emotions tell us – about our unworthiness, about how other people don’t care about us, about how we are going to fail – are just not the truth. And I know how to stand in the pounding storm of those messages and still know that the opposite is true: We are loved, we are gifted, and we have amazing things to offer the world. At the same time, we have very real and significant inner (and outer) challenges that we need to navigate, challenges that we can’t just wave away with magical thinking.
The navigation skills that I have learned over the past years have transformed my life. At this point, almost nothing can knock me down. I can shift the channel when I find myself getting ratcheted into upset. My capacity for joy and the ability to relax and laugh have been multiplying month over month and week over week.
I really want to be able to share this magic.
But I don’t want to ask people to pay money to enter a transformational group cauldron until I can have complete confidence that it will serve and benefit them. And I don’t have that complete confidence now.
Because here’s the thing: People and relationships
Our deepest wounds are connected to our relationships with people. Our deepest healing comes when we can have the experience of real connection with other people that is rooted in authenticity, aliveness, safety, and trust.
But we are all wounded and imperfect, predisposed to feel hurt in response to others not getting it exactly right. And predisposed to not get it exactly right! Are you seeing the challenge here? Any real relationship can be a set up for more hurt and disappointment. And workshop spaces are not immune to these risks. Much care and wisdom are required.
I am calling forth a sacred container where those of us who are most inclined to feel hurt, overlooked and misunderstood can somehow see and understand each other in a good enough way to evoke powerful positive shifts in our Selves. I believe this is possible. I know this is possible. But it’s not simple.
So I’m planting SEEDs this season: Sessions of Experimental Experiential Discovery, group experiments in emotional life force alchemy.
From these SEEDs will sprout insights and information on specific ways of working in groups of “difficult” people (that’s you and me):
Does this work? Does it work well? Does it work consistently? What are the required ingredients for this to work?
For whom does this work and for whom does it not work?
I want my work to be effective and safe particularly for those people who repeatedly find that places that are supposed to be totally safe are just not safe for them.
Is that you?
And are you up for joining me in this experiment?
During the months of February and March 2021 I will be offering small group mini-programs, sessions from 60 to 90 minutes in length, a few times per week. All of these sessions will be free of charge, with the key requirements being that you swear on your soul to respect the confidentiality of others’ experiences and that you provide brief written feedback after each session.
You only sign up for the sessions that you can commit to attending.
There is a private Facebook group for the participants in this program
And you will receive a free or discounted service from me as a thank-you for participating.
You provide day and time availability and I will attempt to schedule sessions so that everyone who is excited about participating will be able to attend some of the sessions.
Please reach out to me if you have any questions.
OK, Sign me up for Sessions of Experimental Experiential Discovery!!
From Overwhelm to Resilience
Cultivating Ease, Balance and Joy
Transformational Coaching with Rosalie Corame
Rosalie is truly gifted with intuition and empathy, and skilled in guiding me to where my energies were stuck or needing attention. She helped me to inhabit and listen to my body, letting it point the way to what needed clearing on the mental and spiritual levels as well. Being an energy worker myself, I found her coaching provided something I didn’t realize was missing from the healing work I’ve already done. I really felt some things come to completion under her guidance. – LH, Ohio
Do you have trouble just feeling ok?
Here are some of the problems that my clients have reported:
– feeling they don’t have worth
– a vague sense of fear, dread, shame or confusion
– difficulty connecting with others
– missing out on deep connections
These are all common struggles that can result from the experience of developmental trauma.
When we experience significant threat, loss, or lack of secure connection in our earliest experiences in life or even during our birth, we develop life-long patterns of upset, emotional distance, confusion, or just never quite feeling right in ourselves.
Even as tiny babies, we come up with creative ways to survive our unpleasant or intolerable emotional experiences, and these protective and contracting survival strategies can persist indefinitely, keeping our current and childhood pain at a distance and keeping our core vitality at a distance as well.
It is possible to change these patterns but it doesn’t happen automatically, no matter how much time passes.
Learn to connect more and communicate better with your body
Learn to be aware of and tolerate difficult emotions and feelings and thus to feel more fully alive
Learn to connect to others with both softness and safety
Learn how to invite your good feelings to feel bigger
Working with Rosalie was transformational. Her ability to hold space for deep emotions and facilitate processing in a way that feels totally natural is very unique. I felt completely comfortable with her and explored new ways of paying attention to my body to gleam valuable personal insights! Highly recommend this professional! – CC, Los Angeles
Rosalie is a wonderful coach. I can’t say enough good things about her. She is warm and compassionate, but she doesn’t shy away from tough issues or hard questions. Working with her is like having a mirror held up to you so that you can see things about yourself that you never saw before. I was surprised by the amount of knowledge I gained about myself as a result of working with Rosalie. I am a pretty introspective person, but she helped me observe aspects of my personality and my behaviors that I didn’t see – and honestly, it probably would have taken me a really long time to get there on my own. I am grateful for the ways she encouraged me to grow, and her reminders to slow down and sit with the things I was feeling and experiencing. I am definitely better for having worked with her. – EP, Florida
Through working gently with your body, your emotions, and your passion, you can unlock:
A greater sense of hope
Connection to your body and emotions
A sense of your place in the world
A feeling of belonging
A greater feeling of aliveness
Relief from trauma
Greater flexibility and freedom
Click here to sit down with Rosalie and talk about your challenges, your vision, and whether Transformational Coaching with Rosalie is a good fit for you:
If you choose to embark on a journey of transformational coaching with me, we will meet over Zoom for a series of 4 or 6 sessions that last a full hour each. The guiding light for the sessions will be the changes that you would like to see in your life, inside and out.
The format for the sessions:
We greet each other, breathe, and settle into present time and space. This is not a drawn out process, it could be just a minute, but it is clear and intentional. This intentional process of coming into the present helps avoid us spinning off into ungrounded mental chatter and it also evokes an energetic connection between us that supports the work that you will do within the session. Connecting to the present moment connects us to each of our higher selves. And doing that automatically invites and evokes other supportive energies or beings to be present with and for us in the work.
I ask you what your intention is for the session; that is, what is the change or accomplishment that you are looking for in your life. This could be big or small, concrete or ephemeral, clear or uncertain. We will start with what you know about what you want, which could be as simple as wanting to feel less distress and more ease in your life.
We follow what shows up.
If you come into the session bubbling with excitement or finding yourself in tears, then we will visit with that emotion, locating it in your body, possibly expanding it so that it has space to be fully felt, inviting any information or insights that the emotion brings. And sometimes a pleasant emotion spontaneously arises out of the space of an uncomfortable emotion or vice versa. We might spend a lot of time on one emotional experience, or we might visit several different emotional locales.
If you come into the session with a clear goal, we will explore what attaining the goal would bring and what is obstructing progress toward that goal. The exploration will be both cognitive and somatic, and the balance of cognitive vs somatic work will depend on your preference, your level of access to your physical and emotional experience, and where the strongest blocks seem to be located.
We may spend time attending to your experience of fear or lack of safety in connecting with other people, include me, or your experience of feeling safe, connected, and hopeful.
We will pause on anything delightful or any victories you have celebrated, to notice and savor the experience of feeling good, inviting those qualities to take up more space in your awareness.
I may offer guided imagery or physical metaphors that represent challenges or situations you are dealing with.
We may talk about or talk to some of the many different “parts” of you that play roles in the situations in your life, acting as allies or adversaries, or perhaps creating drama or confusion.
We might laugh out loud. We might sit in silence. There is a potency just in the emotional and energetic space that surrounds us, and sometimes that potency will lead.
There are a lot of possible activities or approaches on the menu. Whatever we do will be informed by your goals and intentions and will be grounded in your authentic experience.
After four or six sessions, we will spend a part of the session reviewing your experience and your sense of progress from the sessions to that point. You might decide that your work is complete because you have accomplished enough of what you were looking for. You might decide that your work is complete because you want to continue doing work toward the same goals but in a different venue. Or you might decide that you want to continue to do additional work with me. In that case, we will talk about what your long- and short-term goals are and can decide how frequently to meet and how many sessions to plan on before our next progress review.
My session rate is a sliding scale from $200 to $100 per hour session.
Rosalie was very attuned to my body language and I felt she could read me. Her sensory approach was very helpful. I was able to reconnect to some powerful feelings. I had slipped back into accepting an old pattern which was blocking me and she was able, through visualization, to make me aware, allowing me to get some perspective and take action. Her ability to share a personal anecdote gave me more understanding and empathy with regards to my own situation. – CP, France
Why Rosalie? Here’s why:
I have had significant trauma starting from before I was born. About 30 years ago I started participating in various potent transformational workshops, as a participant, as a staff assistant, and as a workshop leader. I didn’t know that the problems I had were related to trauma and to attachment issues. I didn’t know the language of the nervous system and of trauma. But I knew that I struggled mightily that these technologies were helping me.
More recently I have learned about the language of the nervous system and of trauma. I have studied Somatic Experiencing®, NeuroAffective Relational Model® (NARM®), Integral Somatic Psychology™, ShadowWork® and Voice Dialogue.
I have also seen a lot of things not work. I have seen myself and others shamed or blamed when we had a different experience than expected and felt worse instead of better. I have seen people labeled as “resistant” when they weren’t having the “right” outcomes if the process didn’t resonate or didn’t feel safe for them.
I know what developmental trauma feels like from the inside, and I have been studying from the inside the effects of various systems of embodiment, connection, and self-discovery on a nervous system that was defined by developmental trauma.
I know how to comfortably and confidently support people who have experienced developmental trauma exactly where they are, and support them in gently moving toward greater aliveness, greater comfort, and greater connection.
I’m passionate about the road to relative peace and ease NOT taking other people the 30 years that it took me!
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