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Happy Spring, again!

The dogwood in our front yard has started to bloom.

And happy Covid spring, or at least we can see that spring is going to come. My beloved and I will get our second vaccinations in less than two weeks.

I am always trying to draw maps of the healing journey. I feel more secure if I have some way to assess where I am, where I’ve been and where I am trying to get to.

So last week I drew a map, or map-ish. You can access the entire PDF by entering your email at the top of the page and adding yourself to my mailing list.

Continue reading “I am trying to draw a map for myself”

Today’s topic is collecting evidence of failure vs collecting evidence of success.

As I look around my home and my life, I constantly see evidence of my failure. There are many relationships and areas of my life that are not the way I would like them to be. And since one of my challenges is clutter, there is literally physical evidence littered all over the place reminding me of my lack of mastery.

So – yes, the evidence is there for my failures. It’s absolutely true. I see it around me, and there is no denying it.

I’m thinking of those situations where there is something terrible happening and we just gawk at it, the car accident or a tragedy on the tv. When we just gape and stare at the tragedy, nothing happens, we are just lost in frightful musing. In that vein, I have this unconscious habit of gaping at my failure, which makes it seem bigger than it is.

But when I consciously redirect my attention and look around for evidence of my success, even looking at the same objects, there is actually abundant evidence of my success. There is lots of evidence for both, but the evidence for failure is what I notice.

Continue reading “Gathering Evidence for Failure”

I want to share something I wrote today in one of my Facebook groups about Developmental Trauma vs Shock Trauma.

This was in response to the following comment that showed up in a conversation in the group: “If you experienced developmental trauma, it is not possible to heal, your trauma is written in stone, but if you experienced a shock trauma, you are likely to make a full recovery.”

I don’t agree with this assertion, but there are elements of truth woven into it. Let’s slow down and unpack this topic.

The absence of developmental trauma: a good enough infancy and childhood:

If a child has a good enough experience in the womb and as an infant and young person, if the unpleasant experiences that they have are manageable and they are able to have safety, love, recognition and support in the face of pain or upset, then that person will tend to have a nervous system and an inner emotional life that is fairly well balanced.

Continue reading “Developmental Trauma and Spiritual Growth”

Dear Awesome Human,

I hope that your holidays thus far have delivered more blessing than pain. Now let’s all get the heck out of 2020! I hear there’s a new place opening up down the street called “2021.” I – for one – am going to go down there and check it out.

Thanks so much to those of you who came to my webinar this month, to those who signed up but didn’t manage to come, and to those who thought about it but couldn’t make it work this time. I had a great time, and we had some good insights and learning.

I have two exciting pieces of personal news to share!

Continue reading “Happy New Year! AND: Visiting Emotions Process with recording”