Somatic Personal Practice
Regulated ≠ calm.
Activated ≠ dysregulated.
Sometimes the appropriate response to a situation is to feel angry, scared, or otherwise upset. When our body’s response is congruent with what is going on, THAT is regulation. And sometimes what is going on is invisible to others.
Feeling fear, anger, upset or shame about something no one else can see, including from the past, does not mean you are dysregulated.
It “just” means that there is something going on.
Being regulated means relating with awareness to whatever is going on.
Being regulated means continuing to have a witness on board inside.
Being regulated means making reasonable enough choices despite what is going on.
All of that allows us to make it through whatever is going on and to get to the other side without doing things we deeply regret later, either actions or inactions that we wish we had done and that could have been possible with more awareness.
How do we build and support regulation?
By connecting to safety, support, connection and containment in whatever way works for each of us in any particular moment.
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