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Still alive and kicking
Where I’ve Been
Hello, Friends and Fellow Travelers,
Oh, my goodness, life has been a wild ride!
Slowing in the Intensity
I am open to the possibility
You are forgiven for the things you do to manage your anxiety and overwhelm
Remnants
Self Practice Supports Us!
Due to remnants of past trauma,
my body feels that something is terribly wrong.
I look around my life to find the threat.
Circumstances feel like Problems.
Challenges feel like Emergencies.
I am learning to disbelieve my feelings of threat in the absence of compelling evidence.
I am open to experience:
“Everything is OK Enough”
Space to Just Be
Self Practice Supports Us!
I need space to be, to just be, where I am not receiving messages from others telling me that I’m wrong about what I feel, or wrong about what I need, or wrong about what I know about myself, or just generally wrong.
It is difficult enough to clear the internal messages on that channel, without reinforcement of those destructive messages from those around us.
It is ok to deliberately look for those safe spaces and to deliberately avoid places and people who give us invalidating messages.
This is not about denying my/our need for continued insight, growth and improvement. It’s about creating the space that makes those improvements possible.
The cry of Developmental Trauma in surviving adults
Self Practice Supports Us!
Underneath the layers of survival, the cry of Developmental Trauma in surviving adults may be this:
“Please sit with me, care for me and be with me. I’m hurting and in need. It’s been so painful and unsafe that I haven’t even been able to feel and remember how bad it was.”
It’s tricky.
Each of us needs the other to be profoundly gentle and understanding, while we ourselves are often clumsy or lost.
So we fall down a lot but keep choosing again to bring tenderness and forgiveness to ourselves and the people in our lives.
For deep change, we require gentleness and compassion from ourselves and others
Self Practice Supports Us!
For deep change, we require gentleness and compassion from ourselves and others.
Without gentleness and compassion, we evoke change through force, threats, shame, fear, bribery or manipulation. Any of these can work, but these partially unconscious approaches to change also bring instability and stress.
However we have been motivating ourselves till now, we want to introduce or increase our dosages of gentleness and compassion for ourselves and others.
It feels like everything is wrong and I know it is not true
Self Practice Supports Us!
It feels like everything is wrong, but it’s just not true.
Sure, there are lots of challenges and problems in me,
in my life and in the world around me.
But there is also a lot that is good.
I love and I am loved.
I act in ways that are helpful as do the people around me.
Learning to disbelieve this feeling that “Everything is wrong!” will actually help me to better address the things that need to be changed.
It feels like everything is wrong and I know it is not true.
There is much that is good.
I soften into knowing there is much that is good.
I soften, and that which is good embraces me.